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Lauren Ohayon is the creator of Restore Your Core® (RYC®), a comprehensive and sustainable whole-body fitness program that empowers women to achieve ideal pelvic floor / core function and be strong, long, mobile and functional.

5 Things I Wish People Knew About Your Pelvic Floor & Orgasm

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Your pelvic floor muscles play an important part for many bodily functions, including sexual health and orgasms. In this article, I’m debunking common myths about your pelvic floor and highlighting a few essential practices for strengthening this area.

 

Many people researching orgasms and the connection to their pelvic floor wonder: do orgasms strengthen the pelvic floor?

 

The short answer is that orgasms can support pleasure, circulation, and release in the pelvic floor, but they do not strengthen the pelvic floor in the same way intentional exercise and coordinated movement do. While orgasm involves rhythmic contractions of the pelvic floor muscles, building lasting strength and function usually requires targeted movement, breath coordination, and whole-body stability work.

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How the Pelvic Floor Contributes to Orgasm

The pelvic floor participates actively in sexual arousal and orgasm, responding to shifts in breath, blood flow, and nervous system signaling as arousal develops. During orgasm, these muscles contract rhythmically, creating waves of sensation that many people recognize as part of the release experience. At the same time, pelvic floor function exists within a broader system that includes breathing mechanics, posture, pressure regulation, and coordinated movement throughout the hips, spine, and abdomen. Within that system, the pelvic floor benefits from strength, mobility, and responsiveness, allowing it to adapt as the body moves through different activities, including sexual activity.

 

Both low muscle tone and excessive tension can influence how these experiences unfold. In some bodies the contractions may feel muted or less coordinated, while in others the muscles remain so guarded that releasing into the rhythmic pattern of orgasm becomes difficult. Pelvic floor health tends to reflect adaptability, where the muscles can generate tension when needed and soften again when the moment calls for it.

Trouble With Orgasm? It Might Be Your Pelvic Floor

Everyone has a pelvic floor: it’s the collection of muscles, fascia, and nerves that line the bottom of your pelvis, supporting the pelvic organs. Your pelvic floor plays several roles:

 

  • Continence – urinary and fecal – the pelvic floor helps ensure that your bowels and bladder only empty when you want them to
  • Support Pelvic Organs – keep the pelvic organs in place so that they function properly
  • Pregnancy and Childbirth – help support the growing fetus and assist with labor and delivery
  • Core Stability–the muscles of the pelvic floor forms the base of your core system
  • Breathing and Pressure Regulation – as part of the core and breath system, the pelvic floor helps regulate intra-abdominal pressure
  • Sexual Function – the physiological aspects of sex depend on a functional pelvic floor

When everything is functioning well in your pelvic floor, you have little to no difficulty with most daily activities. Your digestion is smooth, breathing effectively happens naturally, you can move without pain throughout your life. And sex feels good.

 

But what if sex doesn’t feel good?

 

First of all, as sex educator Emily Nagoski puts it, “You have to have a brain to have an orgasm.” Orgasm is primarily a neurological function. Your brain assigns meaning to the sensations involved. Trauma can affect your body’s ability to become aroused enough to reach orgasm. Some prescription medications that alter brain chemistry may also affect your ability to experience orgasm. And of course, there is always the possibility that being worried about having an orgasm can lead to fewer orgasms.

 

At the same time orgasm is something you experience in your body, so in addition to seeking mental health support around the root causes of your concerns, you may benefit from exploring the physical mechanisms involved in arousal and orgasm.

 

For some people, pelvic floor dysfunction can also influence orgasm. When the pelvic floor is not coordinating well with the rest of the body – whether it is underactive, overly tense, or poorly responsive – it can interfere with sensation, relaxation, and the muscular responses involved in orgasm.

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5 Pelvic Floor and Orgasm Facts

Let’s explore the role of the pelvic floor muscles in sex and orgasm, so that you have a better understanding of the physiological factors involved.

Fact 1: Your Pelvic Floor Plays an Important Role in Arousal and Orgasm

The pelvic floor consists of muscles and fascia, along with neural connections that transmit information from your brain to the muscles. Together with the bony structures of the pelvis, the pelvic floor provides a steady base of support for many functions of the body, but one of the primary functions of the pelvic floor muscle is to help regulate what moves in and out of the body–urine, feces, ejaculation, air, and childbirth, for example.

 

While your pelvic floor muscles support all of the organs of the pelvis, they also play a crucial role in both arousal and orgasm. During arousal, these muscles contract to increase blood flow to the genital area, enhancing sensations and preparing the body for sexual activity. In individuals with vaginas, the pelvic floor muscles play a crucial role in sexual function, aiding in vaginal lubrication and clitoral engorgement.

 

During orgasm, these muscles, particularly the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle, undergo rhythmic contractions that enhance the pleasurable sensations associated with orgasm. These contractions are similar to those experienced by individuals with penises during ejaculation. For those with vaginas, these involuntary spasms can be felt as rhythmic contractions of the vaginal walls, contributing to the overall orgasmic experience

Fact 2: Pelvic Floor Strength Can Affect Orgasm Intensity – But Stronger Isn’t the Same as Tighter

Recent research suggests that stronger pelvic floor muscles can increase the intensity of your orgasms. However, stronger does not mean “tighter.” Some folks whose pelvic floor muscles have excessive tone may find that reaching orgasm is even more difficult–and hypertonic pelvic floor muscles can inhibit arousal in the first place. In order to reach orgasm, the muscles need to contract and relax repeatedly. If your pelvic floor muscles are already in a state of ongoing tension, they won’t be able to relax enough to contract. Imagine you’re sucking in your stomach: it’s hard to take a deep breath when the diaphragm is already restricted.

 

Your ability to allow tension to come and go in your pelvic floor is going to influence the intensity of your orgasms. Let’s be clear: the point of orgasms is to enjoy them, to feel a sense of released tension, to experience bodily pleasure. So if you’re getting all of that, then you don’t need to change a thing.

 

Intense orgasms come from the release of a buildup of neuromuscular tension. The longer you can hover in a state of high tension, or build up that tension and release it and slowly build it back up again, the more intense your orgasm will be. Pelvic floor muscles that have a baseline of responsive strength for all the loads they carry will be able to sustain this kind of tension/release cycle for longer.

Fact 3: Link Between Pelvic Floor Disorders and Orgasm Difficulties

There are a number of pelvic floor disorders that can affect your sexual function:

 

  • Pelvic Organ Prolapse (POP): The descent of pelvic organs (bladder, uterus, rectum) into or outside of the vaginal canal
  • Urinary Incontinence: Involuntary leakage of urine, including stress incontinence (leakage during activities like coughing) and urge incontinence (sudden, strong urge to urinate)
  • Fecal Incontinence: Inability to control bowel movements, leading to accidental leakage of stool
  • Chronic Pelvic Pain: Persistent pain in the pelvic region, often related to muscle tension or nerve irritation
  • Dyspareunia: Painful intercourse due to muscle tension or pelvic floor dysfunction
  • Vulvodynia: Long-term pain of the vulva, often causing difficulty with sexual intercourse
  • Pelvic Floor Muscle Weakness: Weakness of pelvic muscles leading to reduced support for pelvic organs and associated symptoms
  • Overactive Bladder: Frequent, urgent need to urinate, often associated with incontinence

While these pelvic floor dysfunctions are incredibly common, many people find that they feel shame about them. And shame can inhibit many things – among them desire, arousal, and orgasm. I can’t tell you how many people come to me and tell me that they don’t feel sexy because of a prolapse or leaking urine. When your body doesn’t work the way you want it to, even thinking about pleasurable activities can be incredibly difficult.

 

Psychological effects aside, many pelvic floor disorders are related to muscular imbalances. Treating the underlying imbalance with PT, OT, or a program like Restore Your Core® can improve your sexual function. And when you feel more comfortable being sexual, your capacity to orgasm increases.

 

Both weakness and excessive tension can influence orgasm. A weak pelvic floor may reduce the intensity of muscular contractions during orgasm, while a tight pelvic floor may interfere with relaxation and blood flow during arousal.

Fact 4: Do Orgasms Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor?

You may think that the solution to pelvic floor weakness is to just have more sex and more orgasms. Unfortunately, that’s not the answer. Orgasms alone do not strengthen your pelvic floor. (But please do go have plenty of orgasms, because they feel good!) 

 

The duration of most orgasms is relatively small, and the quality of the muscular engagement at orgasm is more of a spasm than a sustained contraction. In addition, a large part of what makes orgasms feel good is the release of neurotransmitters like dopamine, not just the release of muscular tension. 

 

What actually strengthens pelvic floor muscles is getting them moving in a variety of ways with a variety of loads, including allowing them to relax. For more information on how exactly to strengthen your pelvic floor, please see this article. There is certainly a correlation between higher levels of sexual activity and better pelvic floor muscle tone, but that is likely due to the factors that help one be sexually active in general:  mental and physical health that is good enough to enjoy having sex. Note that I am not talking about body size, or “perfect” health markers, but rather a sense of comfort in your body.

Fact 5: Importance of Pelvic Floor Health Beyond Sexual Pleasure

Your pelvic floor is important for your overall health and well-being, beyond your capacity for sexual pleasure. Your pelvic floor muscles influence your urinary and bowel control, both of which are important for a sense of well being (in fact, one study on pelvic floor muscle strength and sexual satisfaction found “colorectal-anal symptoms have the most negative impact on sexual function in sexually active women” (source). But I would be willing to bet that those same symptoms are incredibly disruptive to daily life in all spheres.

 

A strong and functional pelvic floor is essential for maintaining your independence as you age: once you’re no longer capable of managing your toileting needs on your own, you are much more likely to lose your autonomy and ability to care for yourself. It’s also important for being able to walk, lift moderate loads like groceries, and generally get around without constantly having to monitor your body. So often, we take abilities for granted, and so often, we’re not able to avoid the loss of ability, particularly when injury is involved.

 

Your pelvic floor will let you know if it needs attention. But being proactive about your pelvic health can decrease the severity and duration of injury or symptoms you may develop over time. Just like you might lift weights to maintain your bone density, doing targeted exercises that benefit your pelvic floor helps keep it functioning well.

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Pelvic Floor Exercises for Orgasm: What Actually Helps

If you’re searching for pelvic floor exercises to strengthen the intensity of your orgasms, it’s important to understand that improving orgasm quality is rarely about squeezing harder.

 

Many people are told to simply do more Kegels. But pelvic floor function is about responsiveness – the ability to contract, release, and coordinate with breath and movement.

 

Practices that can help include:

  • Breath coordination between the diaphragm and pelvic floor
  • Reducing chronic gripping or tension
  • Improving hip and glute strength
  • Building deep core coordination
  • Learning to both contract and relax the pelvic floor

If you’re unsure whether your pelvic floor is weak or tight, this guide may help: How Do I Know If My Pelvic Floor Is Tight or Weak?

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